“Does a Successful Career Ruin a Woman’s Marriage?”
“Don’t Marry Career Women”
“5 Women Share How Getting Married Hurt Their Careers”
“Get Married First, Then Focus On Your Career”
These are some of the first results on Google after searching “marriage and a career.”
I’m here to tell you that the idea that women have to choose between marriage and a successful career is a stupid one.
Since getting married, many of my family, friends, classmates and even complete strangers have expressed their concerns to me about marriage at such a young age and what it means for my schooling and career.
I have heard some feminists express that getting married is just another form of male privilege and that I will end up only being an “imprisoned” stay-at-home mom. I have also heard someone tell me that if I went to college and got a degree I was setting myself up for a future failed marriage.
Each woman is different. There are some out there who truly do not care for a degree and only want to get married and have kids, and that is fine. Being a stay-at-home mom is in no way failing and is one of the hardest jobs out there. The point of this is that a woman should be able to choose what she wants and be able to pursue it, and for me, that is having a career while having a successful marriage.
Personally, I have always wanted to attend college and receive my master’s degree. When I began dating my husband, it was one of the first things he knew about me. As things got more serious between us, I expressed to him that if I were ever offered an incredible school or job opportunity I would pursue it, and he had the choice whether to come along or not.
I’m lucky enough that my husband and close family members have always stressed the importance of a career and getting married. No matter what anyone has said to me so far, I plan on pursuing my career because I want to. I’m a woman, and I can do whatever I want.
Having a husband while attending college and working toward my dream has actually helped more than it has hindered me. Since getting married, my self-confidence, motivation and GPA have risen significantly. I apply for more jobs and internships because of my constant companion who encourages me to reach my potential and go for things that I otherwise would have never had the courage to go for.
If you marry the right person — someone who cares for your dreams and encourages you to pursue them — a successful life and marriage aren’t just possible, but actually go hand-in-hand.
Although I personally have had such luck to have great influencers in my lives, others are not so lucky. That’s why we as a society need to encourage women to be whatever they want to be.
Daysa Corrington is the News Editor for the University Journal. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org